INTERVIEW WITH DEBORAH DAVID @ 40
Author, coach, entrepreneur and family woman Deborah David clocked 40 years on the 3rd September 2017. The event team caught up with to get her thoughts on the journey on the journey so far.
- ET: TELL US A BIT ABOUT YOURSELF, GROWING UP AND HOW IT’S BEEN LIKE ON THE ROAD TO 40
TDD: I am Deborah David (nee Aro). the third of four children born of my mother. Growing up for me is a mixture of sweet and bitter experiences. In all, those experiences have shaped me. In 1991, my mother died and that became the beginning of many things. I learnt business skills, I learnt how to cope with pleasant and unpleasant situations. This made me tough and able to withstand pressure.
- ET: TELL US ABOUT HOW YOU BECAME BORN AGAIN AND HOW IT’S BEEN LIKE WALKING WITH JESUS
TDD: It is an 100% sweet experience walking with Jesus. This is not a superfluity or a statement to impress. It is true, real and tangible. Being born again is being born at all. It is the highest miracle of divine order. You need to experience the strange dimension of joy and peace personally to understand it.
I gave my life to Christ on the 22nd of April 1994 in SSS3 at a revival program in Foursquare Gospel Church. Before then, I had been joining fellowships in my secondary school days, going to church but had a lonely empty life. I had no true connection until that fateful day.
So far, the Lord continues to give me testimonies of all kinds that are too numerous to share in this book. I share them lavishly in required places. By Jesus, I have run through a troop and lept over the wall. dared circumstances, pressed down but not destroyed. Life is not measured by possessions, popularity or prowess. it is measured by contribution. Grace found me and positioned me in the covenant. Halleluiah! what a joy!
- ET: BEING A WOMAN OF MANY ROLES, A WIFE, A MOTHER, A TEACHER, A MENTOR, AN AUTHOR, A SONG WRITER AND SINGER, A COACH, A MANAGER OF PEOPLE AND RESOURCES, HOW DO YOU PLAY THESE ROLES EFFECTIVELY?
TDD: Well, we cannot take one factor in isolation of the other. I will say that it takes the help of God to cope with anything. my husband helps me balance life in many ways.
In addition, focus, perseverance, commitment and hard work are some of the principal tools I have used in multitasking. Work is play when it is an expression of your interest.
- ET: WHAT WILL YOU ADVICE YOUNG LADIES WHO WOULD LIKE TO SEE THEMSELVES PLAY SIMILAR ROLES IN FUTURE
TDD: Number one – know God and please Him. Serve Him diligently and committedly, not as a hobby. A good life, fulfilment of purpose, restful marriage, progressive career, protection from the anger of the wicked and every desire answer to the help of God.
Therefore, deposit credit in your account with God. This is what I did and still doing. When you seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, all other things will be added to you.
Number two – Discover your purpose early in life. Find your assignment, understand your calling whatever it is and develop your talent. This will guide your choice of companionship including choosing a life partner. Nobody really cares about a visionless person. Impact has attraction. Before a man of significance finds you, be busy, ready and on your way to significance as well.
Number three – Be disciplined and content. Life is in phases, men are in sizes. Don’t live beyond your means. Don’t be too trendy to be careless with your life. seasons come and go. Fashion comes and goes. Take life one step at a time.
Number four – Sacrifice. Be willing to go the long haul. Don’t take short cuts to anything including the market. Put your best in whatever you do. Become better at developing your skills. Give what it takes to whatever your assignment is. Be faithful in another man’s business. Serve others, do good to the people around you. Do your best and beat the rest. All the kindness you sow shall come back to you in many fold.
Number five – Finally and quite significantly is integrity. Let people be able to trust you. Let your yes be yes not something similar. When you made an error apologize and correct it. Don’t promise what you cannot deliver.
- ET: WHAT CAN YOU SAY YOU LEARNT ABOUT YOURSELF AND HOW AGE HAS REDEFINED OR MODIFIED SUCH THINGS?
TDD: What I can say I learnt about myself as character traits which have been modified by age are many. One of such things is that I used to be very moody and always wanting to be alone. It was a big problem to greet or return greetings as I always wished that nobody noticed me. Now this sounds contrasting to what I do now in recent times due to the many phases I have passed through
I remember when I first got married, I would stay in the room while my husband will be in the living room relaxing and expecting me to relax as well. I hadn’t at the beginning developed the skills of starting an interesting conversation and sustaining it. I was boring and didn’t like to gist nor watch television. Always looking for something to read or write. Thank God for a Godly, patient and understanding husband. He ensured I improved. I am still improving.
Another interesting one was the speed with which I used to do everything. I will walk very fast, talk fast, bathe fast and hurry about everything. It was like I had 50% of the time allotted to others. With many seasons of pregnancies, breastfeeding and child minding, slowing down became a compulsory lesson to learn.
I long realized that I am not perfect. I keep acknowledging my weaknesses, confronting them, praying about them and endeavouring to make necessary adjustments where required.
- ET: CAN YOU TALK A BIT ABOUT YOUR IMMEDIATE FAMILY AND MARRIAGE GENERALLY?
TDD: I am married to my best friend, Olusegun David and it has been a blissful experience since fourteen years ago. He is my number one mentor and coach, a man of his words. It will continue to be sweeter, better and more in Jesus name. I am blessed with a king and two queens. Godly, good and great children. Giants do not give birth to dwarfs.
- ET: ARE THERE SPECIAL THINGS YOU DO TO KEEP THESE YOUTHFUL, TWENTY LIKE, LOOK?
TDD: Eat right (avoid junk food, have enough vegetable and raw fruits), take plenty of water, forgive people, laugh regularly and intentionally
- ET: TO A LARGE EXTENT, YOU CAN BE DESCRIBED AS FASHIONABLE. TELL US, HOW DID THIS ALL START?
TDD: For some reasons, I did not pick serious interest in fashion during my teenage and growing up years. In fact, up till I got married, I was not inclined to do power dressing, gorgeous looking, correct colour combination.
My husband on the other hand is a direct opposite. Till today, he continues to teach me how to dress and combine colours. When we first got married, he will insist on ironing my dress as he knew I will get on without paying attention to that aspect.
- ET: TALKING ABOUT YOUR NEW BOOK, WHAT INSPIRED YOU TO WRITE THE BOOK?
TDD: I think it is better to start with “who” before the “what”. Without mincing words, the Holy Spirit is the master inspirer, He wrote the book through my hand.
I thank God for my husband. He provided me with the seed that has become this mighty tree of exploit today. January 1st, 2015, he read a story about teamwork and passed it to me. He said: “sweetie, I know you are passionate about teamwork and capacity building, this story will be very good in your meetings”. So, I read it and went in search of many more. Since then my interactions and engagement became more robust and enriching during mentoring sessions. He daily and continuously supplies me seed on career and many more issues. He helps me to apply break when I am running too fast, he cheers me on when I am walking behind plans. Did I tell you that he is my Head Master? Ha, he provides me also with plenty discipline, correction, adjustment and realignment. When I see the look, I know the meaning. Many says he is quiet, yes. But he is my gist partner. Not a dull moment.
Many things led to the other, my husband, colleagues, friends started saying all these things you do, put in a book for others beyond your immediate reach to benefit. This year, I thought about 40 years birthday anniversary and what remarkable things should happen. Then I started writing and now we have one of the books.
I started writing three topics at the same time early in the year. later, I concentrated energy on this “ABC TOOLS FOR THE WORKPLACE”. Minimum three other books will be published this year. My target for 2017 is actually seven and I believe it is possible.
- WHO ARE YOUR MENTORS?
TDD: To my mind, mentors are people who give you a lift to where you are going in the journey of life having been there before you. For me learning is a continuous lifetime adventure. You learn to grow or you groan. To the open-minded learner, everything is a lesson, everyone is a teacher, everywhere is a school.
Categorically, the Holy Spirit, my all-round mentor of life. Next my husband, my physical till forever mentor. In addition to the foregoing, I have had several other uncountable people who have inspired me and nurtured me up to this point. Too many younger and older people. If I decide to list all of them, we will really have a serious waiting to do.
To mention a few: Bishop David oyedepo, Pastor Mrs faith oyedepo, Rev Mrs Funke Felix-Adejumo, Mrs Ibukun Awosika, Mrs Olajumoke Adenowo, Pastor Poju Oyemade, Joyce Meyer, Joel Osteen, Indra nooyi.
- ET: TODAY, YOU ARE CELEBRATING THE THIRD OF YOUR DAYS, TELL US, WHAT ARE YOUR VISIONS AND ASPIRATIONS AS YOU JOURNEY TOWARDS THE HALF OF YOUR DAYS
First, I will like to align myself with proverbs4:18 which says, “but the path of the just is as the shining light, that shineth more and more unto the perfect day.” So, I believe from the word that every vision, goal and aspiration will get better daily and become significant ultimately. My best days are ahead of me.
My primary purpose is to advance in soul winning endeavours and become more useful to the God who supplies me breathe.
Second, visions and purposes unfold in phases. However, they have a common bull’s eye – that is; IMPACT. My vision as I see it now is to impact lives especially in the workplace. Do programs, create awareness, launch campaigns that will make employers, employees and entrepreneurs become better in whatever they do. I want to see workers build capacity for more productivity.
Third, to service humanity with my talent, time and treasure by creating empowerment platforms for the socially disadvantaged in the society. This category of people include widows, motherless and indigent children, displaced families, pregnant women and erring youth needing rehabilitation.
Acts 20:35 says: “. . . how that so labouring ye ought to support the weak, and to remember the words of the lord Jesus, how he said, it is more blessed to give than to receive.
So, help me God!
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